The SECRET EATERS is a British documentary serie that was aired between 2012 and 2014.

The participants contact the crew that they are heavily overweight, but they themselves absolutely do not see the reason of them being huge and growing, as their diet is said to be ideal, perfect and healthy.

The crew set up cameras in their homes, followed them 24/7 and after 5 days they invited them to show them how and why the kilos crawled up.

You do not oppose to the opinion and values of your parents. As a kid for sure!

You call it respect. Is it really respect?

Or you never dare to question or oppose to the opinion of your parents, because you are afraid of the consequences?

In this case it's not called respect, it's called fear. 

A strong dysfunctional family trait is that parents value your performance more than you.

They are more interested in your results than whether you actually like what you do, or don't.

When you have to do something because it is important for them, and not for you.

Sounds familiar? Read on.

Keeping it shut, not asking questions, not making them upset and angry, not having problems, trying to become invisible, own the life knowledge of a 70 year' old, deliver things only they can be proud of, making  the choices they would make, not questioning their beliefs, being better than the kids of their friends, etc.

Familiar?

Social anxiety: the sneaky b*tch.

However it does not creep on you out of the shadows! No, no!

Your untrained, uncontrolled, immature mind gives this rather unpleasant gift to you.

You don't believe me? Just go on reading.

I'm extremely passionate about this!

This is a huge lie we tell ourselves and each other, but we only push ourselves into victim mentality. Please think about it the next time before you say: time will heal everything.

It won't.

It can't.